I gave a very nice expensive shower gift even though I could not attend the bridal shower. I am also invited to the wedding. Am I expected to give a second gift for the wedding?
Yes, a second gift for the wedding would be ideal as the bridal shower and wedding are viewed as two completely separate events. Traditionally, the bridal shower gift would be geared more towards the bride while the wedding gift would be for the newly wedded couple as they enter a new journey together.
Having said that, considering you gave quite a substantial gift for the bridal shower, perhaps a smaller sentimental gift would be more feasible for the wedding. It will all depend on what is financially feasible for you as well as your existing relationship with the bride and groom.