There are just some things that are beyond our control. You can’t control the weather or what other people do. You can’t control the plumbing at the reception hall or the clumsy hands of “Uncle Bob” who’s just spilt wine everywhere. And, by nature, you really shouldn’t even bother worrying about these things since they are beyond reach.
That didn’t stop me though and so, I worried about the rain or someone dropping the cake or whether all the guests would get lost and not find the reception hall, and my husband and I would be the only two there. You know, these are all things that your mind does such a good job of distorting.
Even if the cake was dropped, the day would still be beautiful because there are two loving people getting married and what could be better than that? For my wedding, my bouquet almost never made to the ceremony and our “Just Married” sign flew off on the highway and some guests showed up late for the reception. But, my now husband and I just took it all in stride. We thanked the florist for making it in time since she had gotten lost, we laughed about the sign, and we embraced late guests for being able to make it when they could.
My suggestion to you: realize these are incredible fears that your brain plays out on you. Know that no matter how much you worry about them, you cannot control the uncontrollable. So, let it be and just plan for those you can prevent. In the end, it’s about you and your fiancé. And that’s all there is to it.
I hope our little chat has helped you in some way, to feel a little calmer about the whole thing. I know there’s a lot going on and I know you’re probably feeling the weight of it all. But, you know what? You will get through it and you’ll be amazed at how quickly it’ll all go by and how much fun you’ll have even if a few things fall off the wayside. It doesn’t change the fact that you love your fiancé, does it? Believe me, if I did it even after planning everything for 3 separate dates and times and I’m still around to laugh and talk about it, you’ll be just fine.